Well i bit the bullet and put it back in the garage today. Didn't get anywhere but at least we now now that all the suspension bushes and steering are good. Mechanic took it out and got it to shake on the brakes.
Put it back on the brake MOT tester rollers and although its only about 3 mph you can clearly see the needles moving in unison as the brakes lightly bite...
Run out on the discs is .03mm max allowed is .06mm however its pretty clear the discs have warped as they have one high spot. where as an uneven mounting would be an even high low i think.
I have run out of ideas. I think the only clue so far is Fernando above who mentioned the single piston calipers dont spread the heat evenly like 4 pots
I am also mindful of Lesh and his comment about corrosion on the mountings but the garage guy is pretty clued up and looked almost hurt when i even suggested the mounts were not surgically clean when he fitted the discs
I think i need a set of RS calipers which might be a little hard to find...but i suppose with winter nearly here there is now rush. will RS3 calipers fit with std 3 wheels ?