If you are wanting to learn how to use VCDS and the "in's and out's" I would recommend the following:
I would suggest reading this thread and having a google around as many people would have posted coding and their results. I did compile a document for the 8V but it was abused by both individuals and businesses so pulled it.
If you have a new facelift vehicle this is not possible. If you have a Pre-Facelift vehicle the coding is within this thread, however this is the needed coding:
10 Park/Steer Assist > Coding > Long Coding Helper > Byte 02 > Activate Bit 0
Coding is within this thread, however:
Acoustic Alarm MMI Menu Control:
09 Central Elect > Adaptation > Menuesteuerung akustische Rueckmeldung > active
Acoustic Alarm On Lock:
09 Central Elect > Adaptation > Acknowledgement Signals - Akustische Rueckmeldung Verriegeln > active
Acoustic Alarm On Unlock:
09 Central Elect > Adaptation > Acknowledgement Signals - Akustische Rueckmeldung entriegen > active
Power folding and adjustable mirrors for this vehicle platform will only unfold when your key has been turned to the Accessory / 1st Ignotion position.
Suggest using the forum search function as the coding has been posted. I personally do not use the coding method to disable start / stop so cannot advise.
Edit: Further to the information I posted re your "guide" request, might also be worth looking at a guide I posted which details how to backup your vehicles coding and adaptations:
http://www.audi-sport.net/xf/threads/a-guide-to-backing-up-your-vehicle-using-ross-tech-vcds.324907/