I got the front bumper from Ebay (English one), from a guy called "hamidjose", i wouldnt recommend buying it from him as it was a bad fit as it wouldnt go on at first and the sides stuck out, but that probably would be better for an s3 as it has the wider arches.
i left him bad feedback and he refunded me half my money so i got it very cheap in the end.
the genuine rs4 grills do fit it so would look oem, just havnt got round to fitting them yet.
it does look great once fitted right.
The headlights are standard facelift lights which i took apart and sprayed the chrome parts with satin black.
cheers for the comments!