Ebay Turbos
Yes, I would certainly stay well away from Ebay turbos. Even if 1 out of 10 of these turbos ended up being ok..I wouldn't risk it.
I do love a bargain (dont we all) but this is something I wouldnt mess with. Always go OEM or reputable tuning/reconditioning company like BBT or TTE.
Ko4
Putting a Ko4 in your motor will be perfectly fine but its difficult to tell if you need to re-map the ECU. Best speak to a tuning house, ask them if the physical ko4 turbo literally drops right in or do you need adaptation.
Your current turbo and finding a replacement
Try looking on VAG forums on facebook for your specific turbo. There are quite a few.
Failing that, I would say its time to upgrade the turbo. Good opportunity to do so.