> It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it > becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as > when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. > Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive > woman. > > My name is Bob. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my > wife, Debbie. When I took "early retirement" last year, it became > necessary for Debbie to get a full-time job along with her part time > job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. > Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show > her age. I usually get home from the golf course about the same time she > gets home from work. > > Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to > rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at > her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets > dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the > club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked > grub when I hit that door. > > She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's > not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after > dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times > each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really > appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done > before she goes to bed. > > Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will > say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills > during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, > so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out > over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I > also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't > hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of > my strong points. > > When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. > She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the > yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix > herself > a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a > while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well > make > one for me too. > > I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Debbie. > I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men > will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows > better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, > guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of > your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing > it was well worthwhile. > > > After all, we are put on this earth to help each other..... > > Signed, > > Bob > > EDITOR'S NOTE: Sadly, Bob died suddenly last month. The police report > says > that he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver > II golf club rammed where the sun don't shine , with only 2 inches of > grip showing. > His wife Debbie was arrested and charged with murder; however, the > all-woman jury found her Not Guilty, accepting her defence that he > accidentally sat on it.