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Discussion in 'General Chat' started by ScottD3, Feb 17, 2011.
He's waving his hand about to dry it off!
I reckon hes already done that, all over his monitor!!
yeah. we bought it several years ago. I moved down to plymouth with my current girl friend and when that was happening he started the process of buying me out.
It was him and another mate. For some reasons the other guy bailed and the process stopped. My mate then said he will do a change of parties with his mum.
Fine as long Its not mine any more. Then that process got stopped at the courts and not heard any more really, just that its still going through.
In that time he got married and had/having a baby. He is unable to buy me out on his own so needs his wife or mum to help.
He does not want to sell it and split the profit cause I think he wont be able to buy another house and this house is good for him and his family (3 bed semi, garage, drive way and rear garden). Untill he says yes sell it i'm kind of stuck with it. I can do a court order forcing the sale of the house but I'm not that bothered by it at the moment and its growing in value and not costing me any thing.
so happy to sit down here and keep saving for my self build.
I love it, back on topic in a flash!
And as for him drying his hand...
Hoping to make a pretty penny on my new place (whenever i actually finally move in!)
Currently at 150k, but i reckon in 5 years when the market is back up it will be close to 190k
He's doing the "Dude, you should smell my fingers" wave.
Smudge, You should start a new thread "celebritys that I want to jizz over/on/in"
some pics from daily mail. The only site I can perve over in work
What is the hold up?
My Anties place took ages cause the lawyer wanted colour copies for the plans or something.
The house was built in the 50s you TWAT!!
Oh mate I'd love to motor boat that too
vorhees will just delete it like my Facebook fanny thread
Her ass is HUGE!!!
The main hold up has been the sellers solicitors who is the laziest mofo to ever walk this planet. The current owner is extending the lease before i purchase it, and the solicitor had the lease details for 8 weeks before sending them onto my people, despite constant calls, emails and basically harrassment at the end to get the paperwork over
Been going on 8 months now.....1st time buyer trying to get an empty place.....wow
It is a big ass but it will be so much fun I think.
Untill she lets her self go and looks like something from a cheese disposal plant.
Yeah, he's like that.
"I don't like and **** you.....Delete!!!!"
I hate lazy solicitors, really annoy me and I use to work for them.
I shall be sailing on Ventura to Norway for a weeks cruise
That is a joke!!
Solicitors are generally a waste of time,although they did have to pull their fingers out when i bought mine.As it was a repo and the bank wanted the money, after it had gone on for a little while the bank started puttign the pressure on the solicitors to get the job done.
Im not moving now till im old and kids have left home and i no longer need all those bedrooms!
Feel for ya mate.
I half know how you feel, one of my old mates was killed in the London tube bombings.
theres a nice piece in the Echo if you were interested Welly.
I'm having 'the' row with the missus currently.
To be fair gentlemen, I think it's all over.
Thanks dude, I'll hunt that out. In the paper or on the site?
Am i missing something...or are you serious?
Whats 'The row'?
Yep. Big one isn't it.
Basically, a few past issues have come to a head.
As most of you know, I have a 3 year old Daughter with my Ex partner. That's the stem of the problem basically.
It's come to a head because my ex's car failed it's MOT badly yesterday, she doesn't have the money to fix it. Thus, she has no option but to drive her 306 (The failed one) around.
On the footnote of the MOT it said 'In my opinion, this car is dangerous to drive'.
I am not having my kid driving around in that. End of story. So I said to my ex that whilst she gets the money together for the bits etc, she could borrow my little Clio which has been sat now for 2 weeks not doing anything.
Turns out that that is some sort of big problem as apparently I do too much for her already and blah blah blah. It's escalated from there really.
We've gone past the shouting stage, and are into the worse talking stage.
I'll post them if you want to see.
Oh no, that sounds bad mate, like you say do you really want your child going around in something that is not safe. I certainly wouldnt.
Sadly I closed the original convo. However, this is from the last 15 mins or so. It's paints the picture pretty well.
Alex: I don't know what you want me to say.
I agree with everything you said, but what's done is done.
We either make the best of what we've got, or we forgte it
We can't have it both ways.
You know what I want, so it's up to you babe.
What you seem to either forget, or don't realise is that I have to make the best of the cards I've got dealt every single day.
Don't you ever forget how much I was against being put in this position
Like I said, I literally begged for it not to be this way back then, but I got ignored, and there was NOTHING I could do to change it.
So here I am. I've got to make the best of what I have. I have a great little kid out of it, who I love, but that doesn't change how I felt then.
Melanie: i wont forget, but its how she is with you now, expecting you to do so much for her, just cos you have her child
Alex: I have to make sacrifices every day because of a decision I didn't make.
I don't do much for her, and the only things I do do aren't for George, I do them because they benefit my child.
And that isn't going to change. I will do whatever I can to make her as happy as I can, because that is what I consider being a good father to be
Melanie: she can use that against you on EVERYTHING
Alex: Just your responses show me how much you don't understand what I mean
What have I done recently?
Fixed the aerial so Flissy could watch CBeebies.
Took 10 mins.
Looked after Fliss for a few weeks whilst G was away.
That was hard work, but I enjoyed it at the same time
What else have I done?
Melanie: but its all things george can make out its for fliss
like the arial for example. im sure george uses it a lot more than fliss!
maybe im am being selfish, but im sorry i cant help that
Alex: So? She didn't ask me to fix it, I did because Fliss asked me if she could watch CBeebies
Melanie: i wish i could be fine about it, i REALLY do, believe me. but i cant.
its pathetic that I'm not, I know it is, maybe someone else will be better at understanding than me
Alex: People live with this situation every day without issue.
Melanie: exactly my point
Alex: In which case I don't know what to say. I'm beginning to realise that it's not that you don't understand. It's actually part of who you are.
And if it's part of who you are, then it isn't going to change
And if it doesn't change then it's always going to be a problem
And if it isn't going to problem always, then I don't want to be with you anymore, because I can't deal with it for the rest of my life.
I'm sorry, but that's how it is
Melanie: i know
i cant deal with it either
Melanie: you deserve someone who will happily let you go and play daddy with george
that person is not me
Alex: Well, take some time and decide what you want OK? Take as much time as you need.
Melanie: nothing is going to change tho
Alex: I'm not going to sit here and beg you to be with me. I want you to be with me because that's what you WANT.
Melanie: i want to be with you more than anything! i just dont think either of us are going to want to put up with the hassle forever
Alex: It's not hassle for me babe, I'm sorry to say this, but it's you who makes it a problem.
Melanie: its hassle for me
Melanie: and its hassle to you when i dont like it
Alex: Look, why don't we just take a few days off from each other. We've got a lot going on at the moment with the house, so why not take some time out.
Your doing it for the kid, not for the Ex.
How is you doing something good for the ex a bad thing?
Its not like your asking for sexy favours is it.
Up to you on the transcripts.
i'm only after them if they are funny.
Not really, just depressing! lol
Can't be doing with the hassle though. I do so much for her, and she doesn't appreciate a damn thing.
Mate I feel for you. I have a kid who's 2 years old. If me and the wife split up I couldn't handle the separation from Layla (my daughter). I would do ANYTHING for her, literally anything, and as you say unfortunately sometimes that also benefits your ex in your situation.
I hope things get sorted either way mate, relationships are so good when they work, and awful when things are going wrong! Best of luck dude!
Oh, and to be fair to Melanie, I can kind of see her point. Before we had Layla i'd have probably been much the same. A parent/ child bond cannot be fully understood until you are a parent I believe. There's an unconditional love that simply does not exist in any other relationship.
Serious talk over!
J-lo's ass...mmm mmm
Your missus sounds pretty "reasonable" from what she has written above.
She's just being honest about how she feels. She's acknowledging that its not right and its her issue, but is being open enough to admit that she is going to find it hard to deal with.
Obviously I don't know the whole story/history, but the fact that she has expressed in the above way puts her in a different league to a lot of women I have had similar "conversations" with.
I completely agree mate, and I have told her just that myself.
The problem is that saying that doesn't make it any better, I think it makes her bitter that she doesn't understand.
off topic but it's in the paper, second page, I hope your week gets better dude!
Yeah, the argument has been and gone now, we're into the talking about it like I said.
She is reasonably enough now, but it's taken a lot of arguing to get her to the honest stage!
Hard one to know what to do here. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place!
Sounds like a similar situation that i was in mate
Both loved each other very much, but we didn't get along on a day to day basis so there wasn't a lot of point in carrying on
Come join the singles club
Yeah man, I'm having a ball this week.....
Hope things work out for you,whichever way it may be, if she really cant handle you doing stuff for your kid,then she needs to take a look at herself seriously. Maybe if one day she had her own she would realise how much they mean to you and the things you would do for them.
But, by the sounds of it,it is an issue that she will never really come to terms with.
Sometimes life throws you some really tough decisions,and it can be so hard knowing the right thing to do.
I know that all to well at the minute with a HUGE decision we are making,but we have talked about it and know its for the best,even if it aint easy.
Sounds very selfish to me mate.
I don't understand why she is getting funny over you helping her and her mum out when all your doing is looking out for your kid.
I could not handle that.
Be grateful that she is capable of getting to "the honest stage". I'm yet to meet a woman who can.
Don't know what you should do.... but you were close to marriage, no?? And I think I remember you saying that she's the one or something along those lines.
Don't jump yet geezer. From reading the above she seems workable and not a brickwall like many are.
Not planning to, but if I'm being fair, it's going to be a struggle to reclaim this.