Guys its had a new diff and iv swopped the haldex controller from my "new" diff to me old one and its got worse again, all very similar problems, no faults showing on vagcom except this which comes and goes:
Chassis Type: 8L - Audi A3/S3
Scan: 01,02,03,08,15,17,22,35,37,45,54,55,56...