I am finding it difficult to follow your posts tbh. I was ASKING if it could have had a cambelt problem and a head change without your knowledge, not "concluding" that, I will let you and your mechanic make conclusions. You seem to say only BD have touched it.....so all your services were done there were they, from new......? Somehow I dont believe that!
To be fair that damage looks relatively recent, as there is no carbon build up in the marks on the pistons, but equally that head looks to have done more than 3k miles which is the mielage since the cambelt was done, so unlikely to have been fitted then.
You still have not said what actually happened whenit "blew up" ie did you get a noise, a knock, total loss of power, smoke,what? If a rod just bent, it would have still run, been a bit rough but would have run. Are you sure it did not skip a tooth on the timing, or a tensioner go lose or collapse?
It's a weird story, but am I the only one thinking you are not telling us everything about this incident??
pS on TT forum it says you have sold the car, if so, what's all this about? Did you fix it or sell it knackered?