> It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
> becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as
> when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them.
> Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive
> woman.
> My name is Bob. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my
> wife, Debbie. When I took "early retirement" last year, it became
> necessary for Debbie to get a full-time job along with her part time
> job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed.
> Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show
> her age. I usually get home from the golf course about the same time she
> gets home from work.
> Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to
> rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at
> her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets
> dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the
> club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked
> grub when I hit that door.
> She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's
> not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after
> dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times
> each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really
> appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done
> before she goes to bed.
> Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will
> say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills
> during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse,
> so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out
> over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I
> also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't
> hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of
> my strong points.
> When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.
> She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the
> yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix
> herself
> a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a
> while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well
> make
> one for me too.
> I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Debbie.
> I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men
> will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows
> better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However,
> guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of
> your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing
> it was well worthwhile.
> After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.....
> Signed,
> Bob
> EDITOR'S NOTE: Sadly, Bob died suddenly last month. The police report
> says
> that he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver
> II golf club rammed where the sun don't shine , with only 2 inches of
> grip showing.
> His wife Debbie was arrested and charged with murder; however, the
> all-woman jury found her Not Guilty, accepting her defence that he
> accidentally sat on it.