Thanks for taking the time
Many thanks for your time and advice folks.
I have been out today to my local Audi dealer to test the A3 SE and the A3 Sports, this time with my wife as co driver:ermm:,....we spent nearly two hours in each car, and to be honest I didn't find much difference in either of then, but both on the hard side though, and guess what....the wife chose the slightly more harder suspension "the sports" the reason being I believe is the sports seats, that tend to grip you on the bends and stop you rolling about!
So, the A3 sportsback 2.0 TDI 170ps Sport S-Tronic it is. in Condor Grey which is one of the new colours.
Many thanks again for the advise.