My bushes were replacing new bushes, I changed them as I changed the suspension and braking as I knew they would not stand up to the increased loads as the suspension allowed.
I agree, poly bushes in some locations are bad.
bushes that provide torsional flex are best left as rubber. ARB bushes for example, when replaced by a non torsional poly bush provides a perfect surface for road grime and grit to get between the ARB and the bush, when the ARB twists it does so against a nice grinding paste. Have seen GTi ARB polished down by a good few mm's due to this.
Bushes that provide lateral flex whether in one of multiple planes are perfect for poly bushing if you require a more predictable or harder compound. Their sole purpose is to provide a cheap boudary between two moving parts that limits road noise and vibration.
you don't find them on any vehicle that requires finely tuned geometry or is in a competitive environment. they use rose joints when required and fixed mounts when not.
no point fixing your castor camber and toe in to find the bushes flexes 2mm and increases all three of those by two degrees under varying loads.
rubber does compress, that is its best quality. It is bonded to steel inserts for both ease of installation and to provide a torsional (vs lateral) axis bush.
the macpherson strut design of the rear A4 quattro is prone to bush flex under load which increases toe out at the rear by a considerable margin. No only does this make steering input vague it wears tyres more quickly.
The spring rate you describe is present in rubber bushes but is not in a fixed plane and also limits the predictability of the steering and suspension when under load.
Don't get me wrong, I think there are some truly dreadful products out there. I fitted a set of Bug pack polys to my Mk2 Gti and some of them were so poorly manufactured they barely fit the holes they were made for. others had not been moulded properly.
however, choose carefully and use companies that not only mould but machine their bushes for correct fitting, fit them correctly using plenty of lube, check and service them regularly and they will transform the handling of any car that has a multi point suspension set up and add significantly to those that have a simpler suspension design.
they are not for everyone though, if you want the Citroen C5 esque "riding on air" feeling....don't do it