Sorry been slack in replying.
Still very tempted by an S4. One other option is a 330 tourer (petrol, although a chipped diseasal with 500Nm could be an option, need to drive one), which is a slightly different proposition, but very nice too. Sad as it is, the 330 is a bit more up to date on the old styling and even though the S4's in my price bracket are super quick and fun, they are starting to look a bit dated...
Ref comments Scenics etc... Not over my dead body. There's a certain amount you can give up when you have kids, it's part of the deal, but not every inch of your pride, soul and integrity! The wife already knows we're limited strictly to 3 nippers because after that you are into totally shyte motors!!
Thanks all